Successful people take responsibility

Have you noticed that successful people keep working on what they want until they get it, whilst others make excuses why they didn’t get it?  Successful people don’t give up, or look to blame someone else or the circumstances surrounding the event.

If a situation has not turned out the way they would have liked, they generally look at themselves first.  They ask themselves questions like, ‘who do I need to be and what do I need to do to turn this around’? They realise that no matter how many reasons or justifications they have for an undesirable situation or result, they are only excuses and are not going to give them what they ultimately desire.  They acknowledge that they are responsible for the current outcome and also for creating the desired outcome.

You may ask ‘how am I responsible for being overlooked for the promotion or pay rise’?  Well ask yourself honestly how you generally respond to people, actions and events.  Do you focus on what has happened or in some cases what has not happened to you, and react accordingly; or do you rationally work out what needs to happen or who you need to be to create the outcome you want?

Far too often we react from a place of anger or resentment.  Even if no language is used, it will still come across in your body language.  Denial and failing to take responsibility will only continue to keep us stuck.  Ultimately this is not going to get us what we want. You are responsible for the way you react or don’t react and for the way you approach each and every situation.

By actively taking responsibility for your results and non-results and by being who you need to be, will ultimately give you the results you want. Remember you have a choice, and it is your choice if you take responsibility or not.

Terms used to describe those who have not accepted personal responsibility? martyrs. self-pitying, depressed, losers, quitters, chronically angry, dependent personalities, complainers, addictive personalities, blamers, stubborn, persons in denial, troubled people, stuck, fearful, pessimists, despondent, mentally unstable, obstinate, hostile, aggressive, irresponsible, weak, guilt ridden, resistant to help, passive, irrational, insecure, neurotic, obsessed, lost.

Some tips to start taking responsibility include: – • Accepting responsibility for your responses to the people, actions, and events in your life • Accepting that you are completely responsible for your own choices • Being open to change, new ideas or concepts about life and the way life is • Getting help from others • Letting go of fear and irrational beliefs • Releasing anger, fear, blame, mistrust, and insecurity.

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Di Browne

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categories Articles | Di | datetime July 20, 2012 1:28 pm

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