Empower Newsletter – February 2013
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Welcome to the February edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on the concept of communicating in a positive sense. After all, language plays a huge part in how we unconsciously react, respond and behave. |
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Did you know? |
‘rephrasing your sentences, will improve your results’
It was during my spin (cycle) class at the gym whilst struggling for a breath when it hit me. I was unconsciously responding to what I was hearing from the instructor. Usually I hear, ‘keep going, stay strong, you’re in control or you can do it,’ which are all things I want to do and think. On this particular occasion though I heard, ‘don’t stop.’ Instantly I thought about stopping! This is because the brain does not automatically process negatives. Our unconscious mind hears the word ‘stop’, and in order for me not to stop, I had to think about stopping. This instinctively raised the question in my mind of whether to stop or not. It would have been much easier if I didn’t hear the word stop in the first place.
It’s amazing how important our language is in communicating with other people. It plays a big part in determining our results and non-results and how people react to us. For example, if we communicate by telling people what we don’t want, they first think about what we have said. For example, if we say to a child not to walk on the grass, they immediately think about walking on the grass.
It is the same when we are waiting to be served in a shop or waiting to see someone. If that person said to me ‘sorry to keep you waiting’, I would think about being kept waiting.
Now don’t think about a pink elephant! That’s right, don’t think about a pink elephant! How did you go? In order not to think about a pink elephant, did you first have to think about a pink elephant?
So if you want people to respond positively to what you are communicating, as opposed to first thinking about what you don’t want them to do, tell them in a positive sense stated the way you want it.
In the example above about being kept waiting, what would you first think about if the shop assistant said ‘thanks for your patience’. That’s right you would think about how patient you were and depending on how long you had been waiting, respond accordingly. In relation to a child not walking on the grass, instead tell them what you want them to do. Positively stated you could say ‘please walk on the foot path.’
This is a valuable tool to make our lives easier. We can use it in every area of our lives to get our desired reactions, responses and outcomes. Give it a go, it really works!
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Affirmation Corner |
‘I use language that gets me the outcome I want.’
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Events Schedule |
Chicks in the City
Wed 20/03/2013 at 6.30pm
The next gathering for Chicks in the City will be Wednesday 20 March 2013.
Chicks in the City usually meet the third Wednesday of the month from 6.30pm to 8.00pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge area next to the Bristo.
Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect. Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.
All women are welcome and it’s free.
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Something to Ponder |
When was the last time someone told you not to worry? Were you able to just stop worrying right then and there in that moment?
The more we try to force these things, the more bound up we get and the harder it is to perform freely and to our potential.
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Quote of the Month |
“It’s not what you tell them…it’s what they hear.”
~ Red Auerbach ~
“For me, words are a form of action, capable of influencing change.”
~ Ingrid Bengis ~
Author Di Browne, Coach to Empower
Newsletters | Di | 
February 26, 2013 1:20 pm
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