Empower Newsletter – March 2014

Welcome to Autumn and the March 2014 edition of the Empower Newsletter. Like leaves falling from a tree, letting go of excuses and reasons will create a ripple effect to giving us what we want in our lives.

Did you know?

‘you can have results or you can have reasons!’

I hired a paddle board yesterday and had to sign a waiver saying that I am responsible for any mishaps or injury I may have. It got me wondering, How is it someone else’s fault if I slip off a paddle board and break my arm?

When did it become common practice for service providers to have to do this to cover themselves against being sued for any mishaps? When did we stop taking responsibility for our choices and actions?

If there is no faulty equipment and safety instructions are followed, surely it is not anyone else’s fault if we are injured.

It has become way too easy for us to blame others, not only in relation to service providers but also in our lives generally. Is it someone else’s fault that you don’t like your job or that you are unhappy with your relationship? Do you blame others for your unhappiness and think if only my upbringing was different or if only my partner or by boss would change, I would then be happy?

When we blame others we are actually giving away our power and giving someone or something else control.

By not blaming others we hold onto our personal control which enables us to make the necessary changes within ourselves to start making decisions that will improve our quality of life. Whether it is our dream job, perfect relationship or something else, we have the power to make it happen.

If what you want seems insurmountable, break it down in smaller chunks and start with little things like enrolling in a course relevant to your dream job. If you want a better relationship, start by changing something about yourself, instead of expecting others to change. By continually making changes to ourselves is how we eventually get what we want.

What’s the alternative, staying stuck by continually blaming others and expecting them to change, or making excuses as to why you are right and they are wrong. This will only ensure that you get more of what you are currently getting. So if you are living the life you want, don’t change a thing!

Remember, if nothing changes then nothing changes!

Definition

We are each responsible for our own lives

Though we may not be able to control what goes on in the world around us, we can always control how we respond to those events.

If we always act/respond in the same way then the most likely result is that we will maintain the status quo.

Something to Ponder

Tips for accepting personal responsibility:
• Accept responsibility for your responses to the people, actions, and events in your life
• Accept that you are completely responsible for your own choices
• Be open to change, new ideas or concepts about life and the way life is
• Get help from others
• Let go of fear and irrational beliefs
• Release anger, fear, blame, mistrust, and insecurity
• Take some risks, be prepared to become vulnerable to change and growth in your life
• Open Up
• Use positive affirmations

Quote of the Month

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”

~ Unknown ~

Affirmation Corner

‘I truly take personal responsibility for my own blessed life daily.’