Empower Newsletter – April 2016
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Welcome to the April 2016 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on the affect expectations have on us and what we gain by letting them go! |
Did you know?
‘expectations can cause sadness ’
Have you ever noticed how expectations that aren’t met about ourselves and other people lead to disappointment? For example when we expect something from someone and it does not eventuate, it can leave us feeling like the other person has done the wrong thing by us, or even worse, that they do not value us.
It’s fair enough to expect to be treated a certain way by the people in our lives however there is a difference between expecting others to do or say certain things or even act in a certain way in order for us not to feel disillusioned with them or the situation.
High expectations are often a recipe for disaster in relation to how we feel about a situation. Quite often when we don’t get the response we want from a situation it creates a sense of discontentment within us and with the other person which not only changes our mood but can also ultimately affect our relationship with that person.
By not having any expectation on an outcome it allows us to sail straight through the situation with no reaction at all. Not being set on a particular outcome frees us up to continue on our merry way allowing us to focus on more important things in our lives.
Instead of becoming upset because someone did not act the way you expected, or because you did not achieve the result you wanted, let go of any expectation in the first place. By placing expectation on others we are continually opening ourselves up to constant disappointment.
What other people do is not a reflection of us! It is okay for others to say, do and act how they want. Just because it may be different to the way we would do it does not make it wrong or right, it is just ‘different’. By allowing others the freedom to be themselves it also allows us to let go of any expectation we may have had previously.
I am curious to know how much more content and happier you will become by working on letting go of any unrealistic expectations you have of yourself and others!
Definition
Expectations
- The act or the state of expecting: to wait in expectation.
- The act or state of looking forward or anticipating.
- An expectant mental attitude: a high pitch of expectation.
- Something expected; a thing looked forward to.
- Often, expectations. A prospect of future good or profit: to have great expectations.
- The degree of probability that something will occur.
| Something to Ponder |
5 Benefits of Having No Expectations
- You take sole responsibility for your decisions.
- You separate your wants from shoulds.
- You avoid feeling disappointed, angry, etc.
- You avoid becoming a martyr.
- You live in the present.
| Quote of the Month |
“The secret of happiness is low expectations.”
~ Barry Schwartz ~
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Affirmation Corner |
‘I give thanks that I enjoy being around people.’
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March 31, 2016 5:05 pm
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