Empower Newsletter – January 2017
| Welcome to the January 2017 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on getting what you want by starting with the end in mind.
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Do you know? |
‘how to get what you want’
We all know this time of year is a popular time to set a New Year’s Resolution in order to create a positive lifestyle change. But did you know that many people fail to achieve them! One of the main reasons for this is that we haven’t thought through in detail how we are going to achieve it and what exactly we are prepared to do in order to get it. If you haven’t already it’s time to start thinking about how you are going to achieve what you want and what you need to do, think or be in order to get it!
This reminded me of a conversation I recently had with one of my friends. She asked for my advice about what she should write in a letter of request. My answer was for her to write what she needed to write in order to get what she wanted. In other words, start with the end in mind! What are you writing the letter for? What do you want and what do you need to say that will ultimately get you your desired outcome?
It was quite confronting for her at first because there were things she wasn’t prepared to say but once she realised that if she didn’t say certain things that made her feel uncomfortable she didn’t have much chance of achieving her desired outcome. It boils down to doing what needs to be done to get what you want. Another way of looking at it is ‘what is worse, saying what we see as too hard or not getting what we want?’
It works the same for any situation or dilemma in life. Say you are single and want to find a partner, what exactly do you need to do, think or say to get it? So starting with the end in mind of being in a loving relationship, you will probably need to step out of your comfort zone. It could involve joining an online dating site or a social group of something that interests you like bush walking or an art group. Maybe you need to become more socially active. Whatever it takes to ultimately get you what you want!
Another popular New Year’s Resolution is to become healthier! By starting with the end in mind, what needs to happen in order for you to look and feel that way? What do you need to say, do or think in order to achieve it? An exercise regime is a great place to start but what do you need to think and do for example if you are tired and looking for excuses not to exercise. Is not exercising going to get you what you want? What is worse, exercising or not getting what you want? Is eating that cake getting you closer to what you want or further away? Is eating that cake ultimately giving you more pain or pleasure?
What do you need to do, think or be to get what you want?
Definition |
Begin with the End in Mind
To begin each day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then continue by flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen.
Something to Ponder |
“My first advice is to start small. Choose something small you can start doing now that will help you achieve a bigger goal or resolution. For example, if your goal is to get healthy or lose weight think of something you can promise to keep. You can decide to wake up a little earlier to organize your day to allow some exercise or decide to drink more water during the day and cut out unhealthy drinks. The main thing is to make a promise to yourself and keep it. When you make a promise and keep it you will find yourself grow in self-assurance and confidence. The more successful you are with making and keeping promises to yourself, the more you will be able to make and keep promises to others.”
~ Stephen R Covey ~
Quote of the Month |
“If the plan doesn’t work change the plan but never the goal.”
Affirmation Corner |
‘I easily do what needs to be done to get what I want.’
Newsletters | Di | 
January 1, 2017 2:03 pm
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