Empower Newsletter – February 2017
Welcome to the February 2017 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on being able to work out why we are not getting the results we ultimately want in our lives and how to get them!
Do you know?
‘how you know what you don’t know’
One of the most important principles about everything we do in life is ‘that we don’t do anything unless it gives us something!’ That something doesn’t necessarily have to be good or positivey, it can also be something we see as bad. For example I had a client who was unintentionally constantly hurting herself physically, a bit accident prone I suppose. She was 100% sure it wasn’t giving her anything!
It wasn’t until we established that it was a way for her to get attention from others that she realised what it was giving her. Something that unconsciously started, and gave her what she wanted/needed as a child was no longer serving her as an adult. This realisation then allowed her to consciously change her behaviour.
By knowing what we are getting from any situation we want to change in our lives allows us to become consciously aware of what and why it has been happening. This then allows us to choose a different way forward that will give us the outcome we ultimately want.
So if you are struggling with something in your life and are ready to change it, the best place to start is to ask yourself ‘What is it giving me?’
Still not convinced!
Often clients who are single and looking for a relationship struggle to get their head around how they have had anything to do with not finding one. The usual comment I hear is “I want to be in a relationship, I just haven’t met the right person yet!”
Once they establish what being single is giving them, which could be unconsciously sabotaging situations or relationships in order to keep themselves safe from heartbreak or losing their independence, they can easily change how they are behaving and/or what they are currently doing.
If you are still having trouble establishing what you are gaining from a situation, another great question to ask yourself is ‘What will I lose or no longer get/have when I get what I want?’ Alternatively if the reason still alludes you I am more than happy to help you work it out and to establish a way forward.
By working out what you are currently doing, which isn’t giving you what you want, you will be able to change it to start moving closer to your desired outcome!
How do I know what I don’t know? Answer: By working out what the current situation is giving you!
Definition
Unconscious Mind
The Unconscious Mind consists chiefly of the mental processes that occur automatically in the body (breathing, heart rate, etc.) that are not readily available to conscious control or introspection. Psychological research since the 19th century suggests that the unconscious mind also controls the phenomena of repressed feelings, automatic skills, subliminal perceptions, thoughts, habits and automatic reactions as well as possibly holding emotional complexes, phobias and desires. Our feelings, motives and decisions are actually powerfully influenced by our past experiences, and stored in the unconscious.
Something to Ponder
Your unconscious mind communicates through emotion and symbols: To get your attention, the unconscious uses emotions. For example, if you suddenly feel afraid, your unconscious has detected (rightly or wrongly) that your survival is at risk.
Quote of the Month
“The conscious mind determines the actions, the unconscious mind determines the reactions; and the reactions are just as important as the actions.”
~ E. Stanley Jones ~
Affirmation Corner
‘I ask myself powerful questions that get me closer to what I want.’
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January 28, 2017 6:02 pm
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