Empower Newsletter – March 2017
| Welcome to the March 2017 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on getting more of what you want in your life by using positive language.
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Do you know? |
‘most people know what they don’t want’
If I said “Don’t think about a giant pink elephant wearing a black and white poker dot bikini,” chances are you are thinking about it. It’s the way our mind works. You see once something is mentioned, in order not to think about it we first have to picture it.
When a tightrope walker looks down, it only shows him where he doesn’t want to be. Looking down leads to thoughts such as “don’t fall,” which causes him to think of falling. The vision then plays out in his mind of him falling to a nasty death. Instead the skilled tightrope walker keeps his focus on where he is going.
No matter whether we are saying or thinking something, it is really important to communicate and/or see it the way we want it to be, not the way we don’t want it to be.
Lots of us seem to know what we don’t want in life but struggle to communicate and/or see what we do want.
For example a single person looking for a relationship may say “I don’t want a man that is a liar and a cheat.” “Okay you don’t want a liar and a cheat but what do you want?”
A lot of the time it could just be the opposite of what we don’t want. In this situation the new statement could be that they want someone who is truthful and trustworthy.
Once our subconscious knows what we want and what we are looking for we start to look and find just that. So by looking for truthful and trustworthy qualities in people we will find those qualities instead of finding liars and cheats.
If you are attracting the same unwanted results repeatedly, one of the reasons could be that you are constantly telling yourself what you ‘don’t’ want!
Say it the way you want it to be, in the positive sense.
By knowing what you want, you and your subconscious will actually know what you are looking for. It will take some practice and conscious effort at the start but before you know it it will have become a habit, a way of speaking. You will be saying it like you want it to be and actually getting it.
In other words, the key to any success is by focusing on the positive, not the possible negative.
Definition |
Positive Language
NLP asserts that using positive language can change your behaviour. According to NLP, the subconscious-which regulates your automatic functions, like breathing and digestion-doesn’t register negative words or sentiments. So if you tell yourself your goal is to not eat junk food, your subconscious hears that you want to eat junk food. Change the language to “I will eat nutritious snacks,” and your subconscious helps you work toward the goal you want. “Move toward what you want, not away from what you don’t want.”
~ Marcia Reese, Psychotherapist ~
Something to Ponder |
From Negative to Positive
- Why not ? Sounds good
- No problem ? Definitely!
- Can’t complain ? Everything’s going well, thanks
- I’m exhausted ? I need to rest
- I forgot ? I’ll make sure to set a reminder
- Constructive criticism ? Feedback
- Don’t throw the ball inside! ? Please take the ball outside.
- Don’t … ? I like it when…
- I missed you so much! ? It’s so great to see you!
- No! ? I know you like ice cream, but eating too much isn’t healthy.
Quote of the Month |
“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
~ Abraham Lincoln ~
Affirmation Corner |
‘I express how I want it to be.’
Newsletters | Di | 
March 1, 2017 3:31 pm
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