Empower Newsletter – April 2017
| Welcome to the April 2017 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on becoming more accepting of other people’s beliefs.
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‘how to be more accepting of others’
Have you noticed that you relate to a place more because you’ve been there before or you relate to a cause because it has directly affected you in the past?
For example if you or someone you love has been affected by a disease, you will relate to that disease more than any other. You would be more likely to support that charity over any other.
It is the same with our beliefs. We create a belief because something affected us at some stage during our life and we gathered evidence to support that it was real and true. It’s not that there wasn’t evidence to support the opposite, it’s just when we are gathering evidence to support one belief we tend to delete, distort and generalise other things that are happening around us because we are too busy being focused on unconsciously proving the former to be true.
Funny thing is that other people have done the same thing about a different belief. That is, they have their own proof and evidence that a different belief is true for them. Which leads me to my point that all beliefs are not actually true or false, right or wrong, they are just real for them/us. One belief isn’t better or more important than any other, only to us!
We don’t all think the same, which is okay. We have all had different experiences, parenting, schooling, role models, families and interactions. The list is endless. So it makes sense that we create our own beliefs based on our own experiences.
Imagine if we could all except that people have different beliefs because of their life experience and that it is okay with us. It would change everything! We would not take things personally, or get defensive about it or even take offence. There would be no unwanted feelings popping up to change our mood or to impact our response. It would allow us to stay ‘out of our head’ analysing where they are coming from or what they meant by it. There would be no judgement, just their opinion based on their belief.
What does it matter if someone else thinks differently than us about something. It doesn’t affect our lives, that is, unless we let it. Remember we can’t control other people but we can control our reaction and the way we respond!
If you leave something you don’t agree with with the person who is saying it, it frees you up to get on with your own life instead of saying or doing something you may regret, or dwelling on it or over analysing it. Remember you are right for you and they are right for them.
Definition |
Acceptance
1. the action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered
2. the process or fact of being received as adequate, valid, or suitable
3. agreement with or belief in an idea or explanation
Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it or protest it.
Something to Ponder |
“On the road to success there is absolutely no room for criticism of self or others. Insecurity and fear masquerade as jealousy and judgment. Finding faults in others wastes time as we attempt to remove the bricks from other people’s foundations – time that could be better spent building our own. And worrying about what other people think about us also wastes the time that could be better spent expanding upon what we have built.”
~ Alaric Hutchinson ~
Quote of the Month |
“Happiness can exist only in acceptance.”
~ George Orwell ~
Affirmation Corner |
‘I am accepting of other/s beliefs.’
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March 30, 2017 12:41 pm
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