Empower Newsletter – December 2018
Welcome to the December 2018 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on how controlling your reactions will get you closer to what you want!
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Do you know? |
‘things will go wrong’
Sometimes things go wrong in our lives and whilst it is just a part of life our reactions can make all the difference.
It’s just like this saying “Whilst you can’t always control what happens in your life, you can control how you react and then respond to it.”
A good place to start is to ask yourself ‘What do you want the overall outcome to be?’
This is one of the simplest questions we can ask ourselves yet a lot of us don’t know what we want so we just react in the moment without thinking about the big picture. That is, we only react with no regard for what we ultimately want.
For example your big picture may be that you want a harmonious work or home environment. Knowing that, if someone was rude to you, how would reacting in the same manner give you your ultimate goal of harmony?
What would get you closer to what you want is by asking yourself questions like: -
How am I going to get that outcome?
What do I need to do, think or say in order to get what I want?
It may be a matter of doing something you don’t want to do or it may be as simple as apologising.
I can hear you saying “why should I apologise or do something I don’t want to do?” And you are right!
You’ve just got to way up what is more important to you, doing something you don’t want to do short term or ultimately getting what you want long term!
I’m not talking about manipulating people in a way that is deceitful, it’s more about adjusting your own behaviour to create more fulfilment in your life by getting the outcome you desire.
So next time you find yourself in a situation you are not happy about, remember ‘it’s all about the big picture.’
Do you know what you want?
Definition |
Reaction
A reaction is instant. It’s driven by the beliefs, biases, and prejudices of the unconscious mind. When you say or do something “without thinking,” that’s the unconscious mind running the show. A reaction is based in the moment and doesn’t take into consideration long term effects of what you do or say. A reaction is survival-oriented and on some level a defence mechanism.
Something to Ponder |
A Hypothetical – Two people go through the same event (a minor traffic accident perhaps). One emerges from his vehicle wielding an iron bar, frothing at the mouth, screaming obscenities and threatening violence, while the other calmly searches for a pen and paper to exchange insurance details. The psycho gets arrested for attempted assault and battery with a weapon, while Mr Calm drives home with a small scratch on his car, kisses his wife and kids and carries on with his happy life.
~ Lifehack.org ~
Quote of the Month |
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
~ Charles R. Swindoll ~
Affirmation Corner |
‘My actions get me closer to what I ultimately want.’
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November 29, 2018 11:17 am
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