Empower Newsletter – March 2019
Welcome to the March 2019 edition of the Empower Newsletter. Summer has gone and Autumn begins. Whenever something finishes something new begins. So let’s get rid of some old behaviours and create some new ones that will get you what you want.
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Did you know? |
‘we don’t do anything unless we get something from it’
Have you ever been in a situation and asked yourself “Why am I doing this?” or “Why do I continue to put myself through this?”
Well the answer is because you get something from it! And the thing is whatever you are getting doesn’t even need to be positive. That is, it can be a negative gain.
For example, if you keep pushing people away, it may be giving you a sense of safety. Because if you let someone get too close the fear of losing them can quite easily take over.
These reasons are usually unconscious; they are not something we decide to do after carefully weighing up the situation. If we did weigh up the situation we would ask ourselves, ‘what we will get’ or ‘what will it give us’ from making that decision.
Using the example above about unconsciously pushing people away, you would ask yourself “What is it giving me?” or “What will I achieve when it happens?” In this situation it could be that you would get to feel safe by avoiding the emotional hurt if the relationship didn’t work out.
And of course the opposite side of this is that you would miss out on the wonderful feelings, fun, adventures, support, love and all the other things the friendship brings.
So next time you find yourself doing or saying something that is not serving you, ask yourself ‘what am I getting from this’ or ‘what is this giving me?’
The answer/s will give you an understanding about why you do something. This understanding will then enable you to consciously choose to stop the behaviour and allow you to move forward to get what you do want.
If you are having trouble establishing your reason/s, another useful question to ask is ‘what would happen if I didn’t do it?’ In the example above if you didn’t push people away you would probably still feel the fear, but you would also reap the rewards and benefits of a close friendship or partnership.
If you are having trouble establishing the reason/s why you are doing something you want to change I am more than happy to help you work through it so you are able to create the situation the way you want it to be.
Definition |
Change
1. Make or become different.
2. Take or use another instead of.
3. An act or process through which something becomes different.
Something to Ponder |
The minute that you understand that you can poke life and actually something will, you know if you push in, something will pop out the other side, that you can change it, you can mould it. That’s maybe the most important thing. It’s to shake off this erroneous notion that life is there and you’re just gonna live in it, versus embrace it, change it, improve it, make your mark upon it.
~ Steve Jobs ~
Quotes of the Month |
“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”
~ Norman Vincent Peale ~
Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”
~ Wayne Dyer ~
Affirmation Corner |
‘I focus on my inner strength and power – I have the ability to change my life.’
Newsletters | Di | 
February 28, 2019 4:22 pm
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