Empower Newsletter – March 2020
Welcome to the March 2020 edition of the Empower Newsletter. Where is the grass greener for you?
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‘when you’ll be happy’
People who think they have a good life will always find a way to appreciate where they are and what they have no matter what.
People who say they will be happy and appreciate who they are, what they feel and what they have ‘when I get this or when this happens’ will not be happy or content for long even if/when they get it.
I call this the ‘grass is always greener on the other side of the fence’ syndrome. What this means is instead of someone looking for, seeing and appreciating things in their current circumstances/life, all they see is what other people have and how others seem happier than them and they tell themselves, ‘I’ll have a good life and be happy when I get what they have.’ Then they go about trying to achieve, buy or obtain what the other person has in an attempt to create the supposed life the other person has.
When they get it, the interesting thing is it hasn’t made a long term difference, the cycle of feeling ‘that things will be better when’ continues.
My point is that money and things don’t create happiness. Don’t get me wrong they are nice to have, but how much money and how many things are needed to sustain the desired feelings of contentment!
The ‘things will be better when’ mindset will not change until the realisation that we all already have everything we need to feel happy, appreciative and to be content all along.
By changing our mindset and reframing how we see our circumstances will in essence create the happiness we desire. A great way to start is to actively look at things in our lives and decide to see the good side of them. This will create feelings of gratitude and happiness.
For example, instead of wishing your relationship was as good as someone else’s seems to be, start looking for all the good qualities in yours. Maybe if you wish your partner earned more money you could start being grateful that you have a partner who loves you or even that you have a partner at all.
Maybe you are single and believe that you will be happy when you get a partner. Instead ask yourself, what needs to happen or what you need to think in order to decide to be happy now?
Things and circumstances won’t create the continual happiness you deserve! A change in mindset to start appreciating what you already have right in front of you will.
Definition |
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence
You use this proverb to say that the things other people have or their situations always look better than your own, even when they are not really so. It is often shortened to “The grass is greener on the other side,” or even “The grass is greener.”
Something to Ponder |
The grass is not, in fact, always greener on the other side of the fence. No, not at all. Fences have nothing to do with it. The grass is greenest where it is watered. When crossing over fences, carry water with you and tend the grass wherever you may be.
Quotes of the Month |
“Grass is greener at other people’s feet because they watered it. You need not to let your environment control you; you have what it takes to make it look beautiful!”
~ Israelmore Avivor, Leaders’ Watchwords ~
“The grass is always greener on the other side–that’s because we can’t see over the fence.”
~ Marsha Hinds ~
Affirmation Corner |
‘My grass is always greener where I water it.’
‘Wherever I go the grass grows greener.’
Newsletters | Di | 
March 1, 2020 9:41 am
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