Empower Newsletter – March 2021
Welcome to the March 2021 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on letting go of any unrealistic expectations we may have of our friends which will enable us to enjoy them even more. |
Do you know? |
What you get from your friends!
Do you get everything you need from a single friend or are you like most of us and have different people in our lives for different reasons?
For example do you both have the same fitness regimen; can you talk about anything; do you go on holidays together; have you got the same availability; who do you go out to dinner and/or a concert with; who can you be real with; have fun with; share affection with; have the same values & morals as?
I’m not talking about work colleges or family, I’m referring to people you actually choose to be an active part of your life outside of that.
If you’re one of the lucky ones who gets everything you need from someone in your family or the one friend, I hope you feel very grateful because it’s very rare.
It doesn’t matter if you get everything from the one person or from different people, it’s about getting your needs met.
You may have even found yourself going from friendship to friendship when you struggle to find fulfilment on every level and/or your expectations are not being met from them.
And that’s fine, maybe you haven’t thought about this concept before and you are still searching for that one person who can be everything you need them to be.
The thing is, we will never have all of the same qualities as anyone else. We are all inherently different! We have different values, beliefs, interests and personalities.
You might really respect a person for being so positive and love spending time around this energy but you may not relate to their religious and political beliefs or work ethic.
What we can have, is the right people in our lives to give us what we need. And when I say “what we need”, I mean a shoulder to cry on, a good laugh, a fun night out, someone you can count on, being able to have a heart to heart or even just to hang out.
Life can get really hectic and everybody has their own stuff going on, so people aren’t always available when you need them. This is why it’s getting more and more important to have different people in our lives for different reasons.
It doesn’t take away from any of the people already in your life, it just releases the pressure you may place on yourself for them to be that everything for you. You may even find it makes your relationship stronger because you’ve released any expectations you have of them.
If you feel like you are not getting all of your needs met, maybe having more friends in your life is the answer.
Definition |
Expectations
A strong belief that something will happen or be the case.
Something to Ponder |
Sometimes we expect more from others because we would be willing to do that much for them. But not everyone is like us.
Our expectations can get the better of us when we expect more than what is realistic in a given situation. We might expect our friends to live up to what we see in films, or even to match up to what we see on Social Media where quite often what is portrayed is not reality.
Quotes of the Month |
“Trade your expectations for appreciation and see how your friendships transform.”
~ Author Unknown ~
“Expectation feeds frustration as it’s simply an elusive form of control by attempting to grip the reins that aren’t ours to hold. Breathe. Release. Let go. Allow your life to naturally, quietly unfold.”
~ Victoria Erickson ~
“Sometimes we create our own heartbreaks through unrealistic expectations.”
~ Author Unknown ~
Affirmation Corner |
‘I have many friends in my life that fulfill all of my needs.’
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March 1, 2021 5:12 pm
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