Empower Newsletter – May 2021

How to Make Decisions Easier!

 

How do you make up your mind about what to do when you have a big decision to make?

 

Do you wait until the last minute and just decide there and then what you will do?  Do you discuss it with someone whose opinion you respect?  Maybe you are someone who writes a list of pros and cons to decide.

 

If big decisions come easy to you then this newsletter may not be of much benefit to you.  But if you are like many of us and worry about making the wrong decision, or have trouble making decisions, help is at hand.

 

First step is to stop focusing on making the wrong decision and start focusing on making the right decision for you at this stage of your life. For example, if you are so worried about making the wrong decision, you will not see all the benefits of either choice.

 

Now onto making the decision without any fear of making the wrong one.  Because there is no wrong decision!  There is just a choice and then moving forward in that direction.  The trick is to put your heart and soul into your final decision without looking back.  If in the end, your decision doesn’t work out, it wasn’t wrong, you have just discovered one way it didn’t work.

 

There is no right or wrong way to make decisions but if you struggle to make decisions, or you fear that you’ll make a mistake, there is a coaching tool I use to help clients make the answer because clear.  It called Cartesian Coordinates.

 

Cartesian Coordinates are a group of four questions that help in making the answer become very clearer.  Because of the way these questions are designed you will get more clarity and perspective around the answer.

 

The questions are as follows: -

 

What will happen if you do?

What will happen if you don’t?

What won’t happen if you do?

What won’t happen if you don’t?

 

Sometimes looking at what we won’t get is a bigger driver in our decision making process because quite often missing out on things is a bigger consideration as we don’t want to miss out.

 

When answering these questions take your time.  If you have time to decide you may even sleep on the answers as you will always come up with more.

 

So next time you have a decision to make that you are struggling with, remember this method will help you make the right decision for you at this time of your life whilst feeling more comfortable about it.

 

Decisions

 

1. The act or process of deciding; determination, as of a question or doubt, by making a judgment.
2. The act of or need for making up one’s mind.
3. Something that is decided; resolution.

 

 

Decisions.  We can think about things, turn them over in our minds a million times, play out possible scenarios, but really when it comes down to it, you have to go with your heart and move forward.  Maybe things will go well.  Maybe they’ll turn out poorly.  Every decision brings with it some good, some bad, some lessons, and some luck.  The only thing that’s for sure is that indecision steals many years from any people who wind up wishing they’d just had the courage to leap.

 

~ Doe Zantamata ~

 

 

“I do not believe in taking the right decision, I take a decision and make it right.”

~ Muhammad Ali Jinnah ~

 

“When you need to make a hard decision, flip a coin. Why? Because when that coin is in the air you suddenly know what you’re hoping for.”

~ Unknown Author ~

 

 

‘I make decisions easily and move forward in that direction focused on the outcome I want to achieve.’

 

 

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