Empower Newsletter – March 2013
| Welcome to the March edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on self-judgement and how it can stop us from making others feel good about themselves and how we can change it. |
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Did you know? |
‘keeping a compliment to ourselves is often about self-judgement’
Have you ever noticed how nice someone looked or admired something they were wearing, their hair, their smile or an aspect of their personality and kept it to yourself? I know I have!
Many years ago I noticed that a friend of mine used to compliment people a lot. It wasn’t over the top or anything like that, it was just very noticeable that she said what she thought. One day it came up in conversation and I will never forget what she said because it made so much sense to me. So much so, that I decided to make it a habit of mine to start saying out load what I had previously thought and kept to myself (compliments that is).
She said, “we often think it or tell someone else instead of saying it directly to the actual person the compliment is about. What’s the point of telling others or keeping it to yourself, I want the person the compliment is about to know. It makes them feel good.”
It got me wondering why we don’t give more compliments more freely to others. One reason is that we add ourselves to the equation! Instead of giving a compliment and allowing the person to feel good, we unconsciously judge ourselves against them. If we judge ourselves against others and they look great, does that mean that we are inferior? If we don’t say it, does that mean the person will never know we think we are less then? We don’t want them to think they are better than us now do we, lol!
One way to overcome these feelings of being less then is to take ourselves out of the equation. How they look or the compliment we give has nothing to do with us, it is solely about them. Another way is to give ourselves a break and stop judging ourselves so harshly. A great way to do this is to imagine what you would say to your child or someone else you loved if they judged themselves as harshly. Would you want them judging themselves or would you want them to know they are perfect just the way they are? We deserve the same courtesy from ourselves!
It costs us nothing to give a compliment and it actually feels fantastic. A lot of the time you will make the person’s day!
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Affirmation Corner |
‘I am perfect just the way I am’
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Events Schedule |
Chicks in the City
Wed 20/03/2013 at 6.30pm
The next gathering for Chicks in the City will be Wednesday 20 March 2013.
Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of the month from 6.30pm to 8.00pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge area next to the Bristo.
Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect. Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.
All women are welcome and it’s free.
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Something to Ponder |
When I say, “I love you,” it’s not because I want you or because I can’t have you. It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you try. I’ve seen your kindness and your strength. I’ve seen the best and the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. You’re a hell of a person.”
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Quote of the Month |
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
~ Siddh?rtha Gautama ~
Written by Di Browne, Coach to Empower
Newsletters | Di | 
March 1, 2013 9:05 am
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