Empower Newsletter – October 2019
Welcome to the October 2019 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month we look to see if your spending or non-spending habits are serving you.
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Do you know? |
‘if your spending and non-spending habits are serving you?’
Do you find it difficult to allow yourself to buy something that you want but really don’t need, or are you one of those people who buys whatever they want whenever they want no matter the cost? Maybe you are someone who has a great balance between allowing themselves some things and not others.
Let me start by saying there is no right or wrong here. The question is ‘do your beliefs around this serve you?’ That is, are they giving you the outcome you want in terms of how you feel about yourself after the fact.
For example, if you are one of those people who buys whatever they want, what sort of feeling are you usually left with after the purchase, or more to the point, the hours and days following the purchase? If it makes you feel good, think about how long this feeling lasts. Maybe the feeling is good to begin with but that feeling may eventually turn bad.
Sometimes a bad or shameful feeling may instantly follow a purchase. Maybe it hangs around until another purchase is made to enable the good feeling again. And the cycle may continue.
When we use purchasing something in an effort to feel good, often it is only helping to make us feel even worse about ourselves. There is nothing like beating up on ourselves after the fact, with our self-talk saying things like ‘I’ve got no self-control, what a stupid thing to do, how am I going to pay for that bill now, etc.’
On the other hand if you are someone who constantly deprives themselves of something that is not seen as a necessity, does this leave you feeling good or bad about yourself? It could leave you feeling good because you were strong in continuing to work toward your financial goals. But sometimes without even realising it, we may unconsciously believe that we really don’t deserve it.
Everyone deserves to feel good and worthy. So if you fall in either of these two categories which are causing unnecessary bad feelings, then changing your belief about allowing or restraining from buying will change the way you see yourself.
There are many ways to make us feel good about ourselves that don’t give us the bad feelings that often follow an unnecessary purchase or not giving ourselves permission to purchase.
The number one way to feel good about yourself is to give your time or service to help someone else. For example, we could be there to listen for a friend that is going through a hard time, volunteer for a local charity or organisation, offer to help someone out, give someone a compliment or just simply smile at as many people as you can.
You deserve to feel good about yourself all the time!
Definition |
Spending
The act of giving money for goods and services.
Something to Ponder |
A 2008 experiment supports that people feel happier when involved in helping others. Volunteers were split into two groups and either splurged on themselves or another person. Those who got something for others were shown to be happier than those who bought something for themselves.
Donating your time can have the same effect. In a recent review of 40 studies done over the last 20 years, researchers found that volunteering was one of the most successful ways to boost psychological health. Volunteering was found to be linked with a reduced risk of depression, a higher amount of overall satisfaction, and even a reduced risk of death from of a physical illness as a consequence of mental distress.
Quote of the Month |
“The beauty of life is, while we cannot undo what is done, we can see it, understand it, learn from it and change so that every new moment is spent not in regret, guilt, fear or anger but in wisdom, understanding and love.”
~ Jennifer Edwards ~
Affirmation Corner |
‘My beliefs about spending serve me.’
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September 29, 2019 11:57 am
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