Empower Newsletter – November 2019
Welcome to the November 2019 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month is another reminder of one of the ways you can create and/or maintain happiness in your life by using what you can and can’t control to your advantage.
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Do you know? |
‘what you can control’
I was reminded of a very powerful way of living this week. There are many many ways we can sustain a happy life, the one that resonated with me this week was about controlling my reaction/response to what others are doing, or in this case not doing.
By changing my belief about the situation or at the very least understanding where the other person/people are coming from, their past and where they are in their lives in relation to their personal growth, would have created a stillness in me.
None of us know what anyone else has been through, going through or are struggling with in their lives. All we know is where we are in our lives. By releasing the expectation that certain people should think or be on the same page as us is not realistic and does not serve us. In actual fact it is doing the opposite to serving us by allowing negative thoughts to creep in which then creates the need for our reactions to be controlled.
Getting rid of these expectations and instead realising how good/fortunate we really are would be amazing. Maybe a pat on the back to ourselves and a little compassion for the other person is an alternate way to go in relation to not having to control our reaction in the first place. In other words, if we didn’t have the feeling of resentment or the expectation toward others or a situation in the first place we wouldn’t have to control the way we think or react.
Sometimes we just need to remind ourselves of different ‘ways of being’ and then put them into action to create and/or maintain a peaceful and calm life.
If you do find yourself in a situation that annoys you that you don’t have any control over, it will help to remind yourself that your power is in the way you choose to respond to it.
Definition |
Control
The power to influence or direct people’s behaviour or the course of events.
Something to Ponder |
Even though we have the ability to control our internal environment (our reality), sadly, many of us hand over that power to situations, circumstances, events, ‘luck’ and my (least) favourite, other people. As long as our internal environment is merely a reflection of our external reality then our happiness will always be held to ransom by something beyond our control.
~Lifehack.org~
Quotes of the Month |
Ultimately, the only power to which man should aspire is that which he exercises over himself.
~ Elie Wiesel ~
“When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control how you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power is.”
~ Author unknown ~
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Affirmation Corner |
‘I control my responses to what’s happening around me.’
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November 2, 2019 12:47 pm
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