Empower Newsletter – October 2020

Ego is not a dirty word!

 

The 1970’s Skyhooks song ‘Ego is not a dirty word’ couldn’t be truer.  Although ego can get in the way of some things, if kept in check it can be a very valuable asset.

 

Depending on how you feel about yourself will control your ego.  If someone has an over-estimation of their self-worth and self-importance they will always think that it is someone else’s fault.  A person with very low self-esteem will generally jump to the conclusion that they must be the problem.

 

The thing about these judgements is that they are based on perception and are not real or true.   Perception is how something has been interpreted and interpretation is up to the individual.

 

Ego can get in the way when our perception of something is way off.  For example, if our self-esteem is very low we may perceive that because someone has ignored us after saying hello, that they don’t like us or that they have a problem with us.  In actual fact it may be that they were in their own head and didn’t even hear or notice us.  On the other side of the coin if an ego is out of control it can stop us seeing a situation for what it is because when things don’t go our way, others are automatically blamed because it couldn’t possibly be our fault.

 

But if an ‘Ego’ is in balance it can be a very powerful tool.  Having a balanced ‘ego’ does not mean that you think you are better than anyone else.  It comes from an inner belief in yourself.  It means that you have a healthy perception of yourself.   It comes from a place of potential, a place where you know you have value.

 

Your ego should never make you feel “better” than other’s thoughts and opinions.  Instead it should drive you to be the best that you can be and to believe that anything is possible for yourself.

 

Having empathy for yourself and others is a necessity.  Negative self-talk is always the harshest.  It will chip away at your self-worth and in turn, your ego will flounder.  Everyone needs to understand that they have value.  If you know that, there is so much you can achieve.

 

Without your ego you will not achieve your maximum potential. There is so much more you can do if you realise your own self-importance. You are no better than anyone, nor is anyone greater than you.   It’s about witnessing your own potential and achieving it.

 

Ego

1. A person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.
2. That portion of the human personality which is experienced as the “self” or “I” and is in contact with the external world through perception.
3. The part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.

 

“It’s good to have a healthy ego because that pushes you to succeed. But when you cross a line, and your views are not balanced, that’s when you get into trouble.”

~ Judy Smith ~

 

“The ultimate aim of the ego is not to see something, but to be something.”

~ Muhammad Iqbal ~

“A healthy strong ego, with plenty of self-esteem, does not feel itself threatened by every innocent remark.”

~ Maxwell Maltz ~

 

‘I use my ego to drive me to be the best I can be.’

 

 

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