Empower Newsletter – February 2022
| Welcome to the February 2022 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on how changing a belief that is not serving you can create a happier more fulfilling life.
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Did you know? |
You are enough!
Whilst chatting with friends the other day, I was reminded how when we form beliefs about ourselves as children, we still unconsciously believe most, if not all of them to be true as adults.
For example, it is really common for people to think that they aren’t smart, even that they are stupid or anywhere in between. Just because maybe they didn’t do well at school, or maybe they had problems learning.
We form all of our core beliefs between the ages of zero and six years of age. These beliefs are formed from experiences we have. We may have taken on board something someone said to us, even something we felt, heard or thought.
These beliefs about ourselves can be both good and bad. Or more to the point, they can serve us or hinder us as we move throughout our lives.
For example, two children start school at the same time. Let’s call them Beth & Sally. Beth was continually told how clever she was. Sally compared herself to Beth and came to the conclusion that she wasn’t as smart. Both Beth and Sally then unconsciously started looking for evidence throughout their lives to support this belief they had formed about themselves, deleting any evidence to the contrary. So Beth grew up thinking she was smart whilst Sally grew up thinking she wasn’t.
These girls were born equal. They had not yet formed any beliefs about themselves. But before starting school Beth’s mother focused on her daughters counting and writing skills, whereas Sally’s mother focused more on her learning through play.
This meant that because the focus at school was on reading and writing, Beth had a major head start over Sally. It wasn’t that Sally was stupid or couldn’t learn, it was simply that Beth had already been taught. These beliefs the girls formed are ‘true’ and ‘real’ for them. And that’s okay. It’s only when a belief does not serve us that we may want to change it.
The good news is, because beliefs are formed by us, they can be changed by us.
Upon reflection, Sally acknowledged that she did learn how to read and write and was smart but had deleted all of this evidence from her consciousness because it wasn’t part of the belief she had formed about herself as a child. Instead she focused on all the things that were in line with her belief that she wasn’t smart.
What would have happened or how would Sally’s life turned out differently if she had not formed that belief about herself? That instead, she acknowledged her achievements and knew she was enough.
By looking back to the early years of our life, we can see how a belief was formed. Now that we are adults and have adult intellect, we can look back and see exactly what really happened, not what we made it mean as a child.
We can then create a new belief that will serve us and start us moving forward knowing that this new brief will get us to where we want to be.
Definition |
Unconscious Beliefs
Unconscious beliefs are agreements we have in our mind that we have no awareness we are holding. In spite of not having any intellectual knowledge of our own beliefs, they can still cause us to have emotional reactions and sabotaging behaviours.
Something to Ponder |
From a very young age, children begin to form beliefs about themselves and their place in the world around them. Kids are very good at spotting patterns and making associations as they constantly process the stream of information around them.
They generally base these beliefs on experiences shaped by parents and other authority figures in early childhood. For example; If I yell at someone, I get reprimanded, so shouting at people must be bad. If I help someone, I get rewarded, so being polite and helpful must be good. These beliefs become more complex as they grow older. However, the core belief systems that were formed as young children will remain ever powerful, and despite encountering new information or explanation, these beliefs are often subconsciously present.
~ sherwoodhigh.com ~
Quotes of the Month
“Our subconscious minds have no sense of humour, play no jokes and cannot tell the difference between reality and an imagined thought or image. What we continually think about eventually will manifest in our lives.”
~ Robert Collier ~
Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”
~ Henry Ford ~
Affirmation Corner |
‘I now create new beliefs that will serve me.’
Newsletters | Di | 
February 2, 2022 3:07 pm
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