Empower Newsletter – June 2017

‘what being in your head costs you’

Although you were physically there, have you ever felt like you missed out on the whole experience, either in a social environment or with something you were doing, all because you were too busy overthinking and having a discussion with yourself?  When I say ‘missing out’, I mean feeling like even though you were there in person you didn’t feel involved or that you even participated.

This is typically what it feels like when we are ‘in our head’ too much.

When I say ‘in our head’ I mean not being entirely present in the moment because you are thinking way too much.  Either dwelling on something that has been said or something that has happened; or maybe even thinking about what you will say next and then having a debate with yourself as to what the reaction will be and whether you should even say it in the first place.  And before you know it the moment has gone and the cycle starts all over again.

When we are ‘in our head’ too much we traditionally become ultra-quiet and quite often the conversation will stall.  When we let go of calculated responses and become more spontaneous by communicating openly we become more present to the stimulating feeling that ‘being in the moment’ brings.  Being present allows us to fully participate, connect and interact with whatever is happening in our current situation and environment.

Another common scenario for being ‘in our head’ is dwelling for far too long on a comment you took personally, trying to work out what was actually meant by it or on what response you should have given at the time. We all have things that set us off: snarky emails, annoying colleagues, mindless drivers.

This behaviour keeps us stuck in the past and stuck from moving forward.  So instead of being ‘in your head,’ consciously start choosing to replace your reaction with the flash of being present.

Practicing mindfulness will ultimately bring a lot more joy and happiness into your life by creating better relationships, having more fun, feeling more relaxed, liking yourself more,

having better interactions and making deeper connections.

Mindfulness

Paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.

Tips for mindfulness

*  Focus on how you want your future to be and what you need to do to get it

*  Divest from the outcome

*  Start trusting that everything will be fine

*  Be patient with yourself

*  Consciously practice quieting your mind in one area at a time

*  Learn how to “get back on track” in the moment

*  Don’t try to figure others out.

*  Your thoughts are not facts. In other words, don’t believe everything you think

*  Accept that you can’t change what happened in the past

*  Let it go, for your sake. Buddhist psychologist Jack Kornfield teaches, “It is not necessary to be loyal to your suffering”

*  Create an intention to be open and present

*  Listen intently without thinking how you are going to respond.

*  Stop trying so hard, relax and just be you

*  Trust that you are perfect just the way you are

Quote of the Month

“Being in your head too much only creates problems that aren’t even there.”

Affirmation Corner

‘I trust that everything will work out fine.’

Empower Newsletter – May 2017

Do you know?

‘the benefits of honouring ordinariness’

'When we learn the value of honouring the ordinariness of our life

instead of chasing the torment of needing to BE extraordinary we are

on the path to setting ourselves free.’  ~ Author unknown ~

This quote is the inspiration for this month’s Newsletter.  When I read it it got me pondering about how I felt that I was born to be extraordinary.  Funny thing is, from my experience with other people, they all seem to have this deep seeded belief as well.

For some of us, this belief drives us to be better and for others it stops us from feeling satisfied with who we are now as this expectation creates the feeling that we are not good enough yet?  That is, until we achieve ‘this’ extraordinariness we won’t be good enough, we would be less than ordinary or even worse, the opposite of ordinary, odd or abnormal.

Putting this expectation on ourselves that we need to achieve more in order to be more only continues to reinforce that we are not good enough yet.  My question is, ‘Good enough for what exactly?’  Good enough to deserve to be happy, content or even good enough to feel free to do what we want!

My truth is that we are continually learning, growing and improving whether we want to or not anyway.  Life has a funny way of pushing us and challenging us which makes standing still or being stagnant impossible.

Being extraordinary to me is being the best ‘you’ you can be right now!  The expectation that you are not good enough right now only leads to feelings of disappointment and unhappiness.

Wanting to excel at something is great but not at the expense of being caught up in feelings that only reinforce your dissatisfaction and disappointment with yourself.  As long as you are striving to achieve something because it’s something you truly want and not because you feel you need to in order to be good enough.

Ordinariness is not something to be feared, it is something that can enable us to function without self-judgement in a more simple and straightforward way.

Remember you are special, ordinary and extraordinary (perfect) just the way you are right now!

Ordinariness

1.     something regular, customary, or usual

2.     the quality or condition of being usual

3.     the quality of being commonplace and ordinary

Fear of being ordinary

All our lives we fear being ordinary. The ordinary frightens us. Relying as we do on an identity based on external labels and achievements, we strive to stand out from others. Alas, trying to fulfil our need for being special through external means is like filling a bottomless pit. No matter how successful we may be in our professions or how much fame and glory we may attain, our sense of self will be shaky. After all, there is always someone who has achieved more than we have, and even fame and glory fade. In the meanwhile in our struggle to be better than the other, we alienate them, for there is nothing that rents the fabric of our interconnectedness and interdependence as feeling superior to others.

~ Nandini Murali ~

“And while it takes courage to achieve greatness, it takes more courage to find fulfilment in being ordinary.”

~ Marilyn Thomsen ~

‘I am perfect just the way I am right now.’

Empower Newsletter – April 2017

‘how to be more accepting of others’

Have you noticed that you relate to a place more because you’ve been there before or you relate to a cause because it has directly affected you in the past?

For example if you or someone you love has been affected by a disease, you will relate to that disease more than any other.  You would be more likely to support that charity over any other.

It is the same with our beliefs. We create a belief because something affected us at some stage during our life and we gathered evidence to support that it was real and true.  It’s not that there wasn’t evidence to support the opposite, it’s just when we are gathering evidence to support one belief we tend to delete, distort and generalise other things that are happening around us because we are too busy being focused on unconsciously proving the former to be true.

Funny thing is that other people have done the same thing about a different belief.  That is, they have their own proof and evidence that a different belief is true for them.  Which leads me to my point that all beliefs are not actually true or false, right or wrong, they are just real for them/us.  One belief isn’t better or more important than any other, only to us!

We don’t all think the same, which is okay.  We have all had different experiences, parenting, schooling, role models, families and interactions.  The list is endless.  So it makes sense that we create our own beliefs based on our own experiences.

Imagine if we could all except that people have different beliefs because of their life experience and that it is okay with us.  It would change everything!  We would not take things personally, or get defensive about it or even take offence.  There would be no unwanted feelings popping up to change our mood or to impact our response.  It would allow us to stay ‘out of our head’ analysing where they are coming from or what they meant by it.  There would be no judgement, just their opinion based on their belief.

What does it matter if someone else thinks differently than us about something.  It doesn’t affect our lives, that is, unless we let it.  Remember we can’t control other people but we can control our reaction and the way we respond!

If you leave something you don’t agree with with the person who is saying it, it frees you up to get on with your own life instead of saying or doing something you may regret, or dwelling on it or over analysing it.  Remember you are right for you and they are right for them.

Acceptance

1.     the action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered

2.     the process or fact of being received as adequate, valid, or suitable

3.     agreement with or belief in an idea or explanation

Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it or protest it.

“On the road to success there is absolutely no room for criticism of self or others. Insecurity and fear masquerade as jealousy and judgment. Finding faults in others wastes time as we attempt to remove the bricks from other people’s foundations – time that could be better spent building our own. And worrying about what other people think about us also wastes the time that could be better spent expanding upon what we have built.”

~ Alaric Hutchinson ~

“Happiness can exist only in acceptance.”

~ George Orwell ~

‘I am accepting of other/s beliefs.’

Empower Newsletter – March 2017

‘most people know what they don’t want’

If I said “Don’t think about a giant pink elephant wearing a black and white poker dot bikini,” chances are you are thinking about it.  It’s the way our mind works.  You see once something is mentioned, in order not to think about it we first have to picture it.

When a tightrope walker looks down, it only shows him where he doesn’t want to be.  Looking down leads to thoughts such as “don’t fall,” which causes him to think of falling. The vision then plays out in his mind of him falling to a nasty death.  Instead the skilled tightrope walker keeps his focus on where he is going.

No matter whether we are saying or thinking something, it is really important to communicate and/or see it the way we want it to be, not the way we don’t want it to be.

Lots of us seem to know what we don’t want in life but struggle to communicate and/or see what we do want.

For example a single person looking for a relationship may say “I don’t want a man that is a liar and a cheat.”  “Okay you don’t want a liar and a cheat but what do you want?”

A lot of the time it could just be the opposite of what we don’t want.  In this situation the new statement could be that they want someone who is truthful and trustworthy.

Once our subconscious knows what we want and what we are looking for we start to look and find just that.  So by looking for truthful and trustworthy qualities in people we will find those qualities instead of finding  liars and cheats.

If you are attracting the same unwanted results repeatedly, one of the reasons could be that you are constantly telling yourself what you ‘don’t’ want!

Say it the way you want it to be, in the positive sense.

By knowing what you want, you and your subconscious will actually know what you are looking for. It will take some practice and conscious effort at the start but before you know it it will have become a habit, a way of speaking.  You will be saying it like you want it to be and actually getting it.

In other words, the key to any success is by focusing on the positive, not the possible negative.

Positive Language

NLP asserts that using positive language can change your behaviour. According to NLP, the subconscious-which regulates your automatic functions, like breathing and digestion-doesn’t register negative words or sentiments. So if you tell yourself your goal is to not eat junk food, your subconscious hears that you want to eat junk food. Change the language to “I will eat nutritious snacks,” and your subconscious helps you work toward the goal you want. “Move toward what you want, not away from what you don’t want.”

~ Marcia Reese, Psychotherapist ~

From Negative to Positive

• Why not ? Sounds good
• No problem ? Definitely!
• Can’t complain ? Everything’s going well, thanks
• I’m exhausted ? I need to rest
• I forgot ? I’ll make sure to set a reminder
• Constructive criticism ? Feedback
• Don’t throw the ball inside! ?  Please take the ball outside.
• Don’t … ? I like it when…
• I missed you so much! ? It’s so great to see you!
• No! ? I know you like ice cream, but eating too much isn’t healthy.

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

~ Abraham Lincoln ~

‘I express how I want it to be.’

Empower Newsletter – February 2017

Welcome to the February 2017 edition of the Empower Newsletter. This month the focus is on being able to work out why we are not getting the results we ultimately want in our lives and how to get them!

Do you know?

‘how you know what you don’t know’

One of the most important principles about everything we do in life is ‘that we don’t do anything unless it gives us something!’ That something doesn’t necessarily have to be good or positivey, it can also be something we see as bad. For example I had a client who was unintentionally constantly hurting herself physically, a bit accident prone I suppose. She was 100% sure it wasn’t giving her anything!

It wasn’t until we established that it was a way for her to get attention from others that she realised what it was giving her. Something that unconsciously started, and gave her what she wanted/needed as a child was no longer serving her as an adult. This realisation then allowed her to consciously change her behaviour.

By knowing what we are getting from any situation we want to change in our lives allows us to become consciously aware of what and why it has been happening. This then allows us to choose a different way forward that will give us the outcome we ultimately want.

So if you are struggling with something in your life and are ready to change it, the best place to start is to ask yourself ‘What is it giving me?’

Still not convinced!

Often clients who are single and looking for a relationship struggle to get their head around how they have had anything to do with not finding one. The usual comment I hear is “I want to be in a relationship, I just haven’t met the right person yet!”

Once they establish what being single is giving them, which could be unconsciously sabotaging situations or relationships in order to keep themselves safe from heartbreak or losing their independence, they can easily change how they are behaving and/or what they are currently doing.

If you are still having trouble establishing what you are gaining from a situation, another great question to ask yourself is ‘What will I lose or no longer get/have when I get what I want?’ Alternatively if the reason still alludes you I am more than happy to help you work it out and to establish a way forward.

By working out what you are currently doing, which isn’t giving you what you want, you will be able to change it to start moving closer to your desired outcome!

How do I know what I don’t know? Answer: By working out what the current situation is giving you!

Definition

Unconscious Mind

The Unconscious Mind consists chiefly of the mental processes that occur automatically in the body (breathing, heart rate, etc.) that are not readily available to conscious control or introspection. Psychological research since the 19th century suggests that the unconscious mind also controls the phenomena of repressed feelings, automatic skills, subliminal perceptions, thoughts, habits and automatic reactions as well as possibly holding emotional complexes, phobias and desires. Our feelings, motives and decisions are actually powerfully influenced by our past experiences, and stored in the unconscious.

Something to Ponder

Your unconscious mind communicates through emotion and symbols: To get your attention, the unconscious uses emotions. For example, if you suddenly feel afraid, your unconscious has detected (rightly or wrongly) that your survival is at risk.

Quote of the Month

“The conscious mind determines the actions, the unconscious mind determines the reactions; and the reactions are just as important as the actions.”

~ E. Stanley Jones ~

Affirmation Corner

‘I ask myself powerful questions that get me closer to what I want.’

Empower Newsletter – January 2017

‘how to get what you want’

We all know this time of year is a popular time to set a New Year’s Resolution in order to create a positive lifestyle change.   But did you know that many people fail to achieve them!  One of the main reasons for this is that we haven’t thought through in detail how we are going to achieve it and what exactly we are prepared to do in order to get it.  If you haven’t already it’s time to start thinking about how you are going to achieve what you want and what you need to do, think or be in order to get it!

This reminded me of a conversation I recently had with one of my friends.  She asked for my advice about what she should write in a letter of request.  My answer was for her to write what she needed to write in order to get what she wanted.  In other words, start with the end in mind! What are you writing the letter for? What do you want and what do you need to say that will ultimately get you your desired outcome?

It was quite confronting for her at first because there were things she wasn’t prepared to say but once she realised that if she didn’t say certain things that made her feel uncomfortable she didn’t have much chance of achieving her desired outcome.  It boils down to doing what needs to be done to get what you want.  Another way of looking at it is ‘what is worse, saying what we see as too hard or not getting what we want?’

It works the same for any situation or dilemma in life.  Say you are single and want to find a partner, what exactly do you need to do, think or say to get it?  So starting with the end in mind of being in a loving relationship, you will probably need to step out of your comfort zone.  It could involve joining an online dating site or a social group of something that interests you like bush walking or an art group.  Maybe you need to become more socially active.  Whatever it takes to ultimately get you what you want!

Another popular New Year’s Resolution is to become healthier!  By starting with the end in mind, what needs to happen in order for you to look and feel that way?  What do you need to say, do or think in order to achieve it?  An exercise regime is a great place to start but what do you need to think and do for example if you are tired and looking for excuses not to exercise.  Is not exercising going to get you what you want?  What is worse, exercising or not getting what you want?  Is eating that cake getting you closer to what you want or further away?  Is eating that cake ultimately giving you more pain or pleasure?

What do you need to do, think or be to get what you want?

Begin with the End in Mind

To begin each day, task, or project with a clear vision of your desired direction and destination, and then continue by flexing your proactive muscles to make things happen.

“My first advice is to start small. Choose something small you can start doing now that will help you achieve a bigger goal or resolution. For example, if your goal is to get healthy or lose weight think of something you can promise to keep. You can decide to wake up a little earlier to organize your day to allow some exercise or decide to drink more water during the day and cut out unhealthy drinks. The main thing is to make a promise to yourself and keep it. When you make a promise and keep it you will find yourself grow in self-assurance and confidence. The more successful you are with making and keeping promises to yourself, the more you will be able to make and keep promises to others.”

~ Stephen R Covey ~

“If the plan doesn’t work change the plan but never the goal.”

‘I easily do what needs to be done to get what I want.’

Empower Newsletter – December 2016

‘the feeling of absent mindedness’

Have you ever walked into a room and forgotten what you walked in there for?  If you are anything like me it happens often!  You probably got side tracked along the way with something else you saw that needed your attention or with thoughts going through your mind.

Whatever the reason, it certainly wasn’t because you were totally focused on the task at hand.  A friend of mine told me that it happened to her so much that she never finished anything, so she made it a habit to finish what she was doing before she started anything else.  It turned out she wasn’t losing it and she wasn’t even absent minded!

Paying attention to the task at hand is made easy by keeping focused.  It will not only ensure it gets completed it will also ensure it gets done to the best of your ability.

This also translates to many other important areas of our lives such as relationships, business and spiritual.  Imagine how much more you would take away from a meditation by keeping your focus on the task at hand instead of thinking about your day or maybe what you are going to have for dinner.

By focusing on a phone call and by doing nothing else besides listening wholeheartedly to the person on the other end will result in a much better outcome.  We instinctively know if someone is truly listening to us and because it makes us feel important we form better relationships.  If you are going to take or make the phone call in the first place surely it is worth while creating the space to give your complete attention to that person.

A lot of people lead very busy lives and this can often create an urgency that they need to get a lot done in a short amount of time.  By prioritising what is truly important to you and letting go of the less important things it will free up a lot of your time and leave you to create better outcomes with the things you have prioritised as being more important.

To help you work out what is more important to you here are four questions you can ask yourself.  I suggest you write down your answers to refer back to.

What will happen if I do it?

What will happen if I don’t do it?

What won’t happen if I do it?

What won’t happen if I don’t do it?

It’s time to prioritise!

Prioritise

1. To arrange or do in order of priority.
2. To give a high priority to.
3. To organise or deal with something according to its priority.

Prioritising skills are your ability to see what tasks are more important at each moment and give those tasks more of your attention, energy, and time. You focus on what is important at the expense of lower value activities.

“A simple life is not seeing how little we can get by with—that’s poverty—but how efficiently we can put first things first. . . . When you’re clear about your purpose and your priorities, you can painlessly discard whatever does not support these, whether it’s clutter in your cabinets or commitments on your calendar.”

~ Victoria Moran ~

“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.”

~ Stephen R. Covey ~

‘I easily prioritise what is important to me.’

Empower Newsletter – November 2016

Welcome to the November 2016 edition of the Empower Newsletter.  This month the focus is on how having less can create more happiness.

Did you know?

‘your life might be better with less’

This week I went to our local picture house and watched a documentary on ‘Minimalism’.  Although it featured minimalists from all walks of life it was predominately about two 30ish business men who although very successful wondered why even when they had everything money could buy were still unhappy.  This led them on a path of becoming minimalists in an attempt to find happiness.

Basically these two men quit their jobs and got rid of all their possessions (which they called ‘stuff’) except for items they believed added value to their lives.  Their wardrobes consisted of around 30 items including underwear.  And before you say men need less than women, there were also women who took part by also wearing only 30 items including jewellery, for a period of 3 months.  One of these women was an advertising executive and said that no one even noticed!

It seems the more space we have, the more space we fill and then look for more space in the form of a bigger house or extension.  Some of us even store our ‘stuff’ in our garages and leave our expensive motor vehicles outside.

The concept is that having and needing less in our lives gives us less to worry about and less the think about.  That is, if you don’t need stuff you don’t have to earn as much money, work as much or maintain your current stuff.  You can spend more time doing the things you love and at the same time have less going on in your mind.

This way of being allows us to get back to basics by clearing out the clutter in our lives which in turn clears the clutter from our minds.  It creates a life where we no longer have to continually earn more and more money to support our life style of having to have more or the latest  ‘stuff’.

The process of striping ourselves back allows us to be comfortable and confident in ourselves by realising that we don’t need to have ‘stuff’ to make us feel worthy or even liked.

How will you define your success after letting go of the excess stuff?  To me a good measure of success is about how happy I am, it’s not about how much stuff I’ve got.  Sometimes we get so caught up by ‘having’ to have something and forget to be grateful for what we already have.

Definition

Less is more

Used to express the view that a minimalist approach to artistic or aesthetic matters is more effective.

Somethings to Ponder

But is less really more? And if so, is the opposite true? Is more actually less?

~ Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus ~

Proverb – Less is more

That which is less complicated is often better understood and more appreciated than what is more complicated; simplicity is preferable to complexity; brevity in communication is more effective than verbosity.

We can’t be happy if we’re always thinking about the next thing. We can’t get things done when clutter is weighing us down and blocking our way. We need to take a breath, enjoy the moment, simplify and live big.

Quotes of the Month

“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.”

~ Socrates ~

“We are happy in proportion to the things we can do without.”

~ Henry David Thoreau ~

Affirmation Corner

‘Everything in my life adds value.’

Empower Newsletter – October 2016

‘how to be in the moment’

At yoga last week our teacher spoke about how important it is to put time and focus into the transition to a pose and not to be in a hurry to get to the final pose!  That the transitional movements are as important as the end result and by rushing to get to the end we are missing everything in between.  That is, we are not being present in the moment.

This led me to think about what she said in the context of how we often look forward to our destination of finally achieving our goal instead of enjoying the moment or the journey.

It could be that you are inside your head listening to your voice telling you untruths or thinking about what happened the day before or your to-do-list for the day ahead.  Whatever it is you are thinking about, it is taking you away from the present.  In the present there are no voices only presence.  Presence which will allow you to do what you are doing or to listen wholeheartedly to whom you are with.

I believe if we spent more time in the moment and less time in our heads we will find more pleasure in our lives right now instead of when we finish or achieve something.  When we are present in the now we will find the joy in what we are doing and where we are.

We lived in the moment most of the time when we were kids. As we become adults we learn to live less and less in the world, and more in our thoughts about ourselves and the world. When we come back to the present moment, our jumble of thoughts about our life situation shrinks in significance, and the place where we actually are regains its rightful uniqueness.

For example if you spend time thinking about an impending workout you are only going to think about what a big, long gruelling thing it will be, but that’s only when you’re thinking about it. When you’re actually doing it, you’re never required to do more than a single moment’s action.  So instead of wasting the present moment thinking about the workout, and ultimately making yourself feel worse, be where you are and get enjoyment out of that.

For example, if you are in your car you might look around at your surroundings and notice the colour of the sky, the lady singing in the car next to you or you may take a deep breath.  Things that ultimately make you feel good! 

Being in the moment

When you’re in the moment, time is not an issue. Effort is not an issue. ‘What’s next?’ is not an issue. It’s being in harmony and it’s the way you were meant to live your life.

The Art of Now: Six Steps to Living in the Moment

1: To improve your performance, stop thinking about it (unselfconsciousness).

2: To avoid worrying about the future, focus on the present (savouring).

3: If you want a future with your significant other, inhabit the present (breathe).

4: To make the most of time, lose track of it (flow).

5: If something is bothering you, move toward it rather than away from it (acceptance).

6: Know that you don’t know (engagement).

~ Jay Dixit ~

“Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry – all forms of fear – are caused by too much future and not enough presence.  Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past and not enough presence.”

~ Eckhart Tolle ~

‘I easily focus on the present moment by taking a deep breath.’

Empower Newsletter – September 2016

‘our thinking produces our behaviour’

After a few very strenuous days my muscles were stiff and I was aching all over.  I found myself thinking about having a day off from my exercise routine and it was not something I wanted to do. I was not injured just feeling sorry for myself.  Lucky for me I was able to turn it around by changing what I was thinking.   Instead of looking for all the reasons for not doing it, I started to look for and see all the reasons why I wanted to.

Is there something in your life you would like to change or do differently but don’t know where to start?  If there is, here are a few more ways you can change your thinking to produce different behaviour which will in turn help you attain the results you want.

Start with the end in mind!  Ask yourself questions like, “How do I want it to be?  “What do I need to do to get what I want?”  In my opinion this thinking is the best and quickest way to get you where you want to be, not only in relation to making a change but also for anything you undertake in life.

Another way is to create pain around not making the change!  This works because we move away from pain, and if we are not changing our current situation, we have already attached more perceived pain to making the change. To reverse this start looking at all the painful things that won’t happen and all the painful things that will continue to happen if you don’t make the change.  If you create enough pain around not changing, it will push you to make the change.

For you, changing something may be as simple as realising that ‘the past does not equal the future.’  This means that just because it didn’t work out the way you wanted it to before doesn’t mean it will happen again.  If you do just one thing differently, you will end up with a different result!

It may take changing what you believe about someone!  Is your current thinking going to get you closer or push you further away from what you want?  After all everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available.

How will you change your thinking to get what you want?

Thinking

1. The process of considering or reasoning about something
2. A person’s ideas or opinions
3. Using thought or rational judgement; intelligent

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”

~ Albert Einstein ~

“Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.”

~ Steve Jobs ~

“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can’t package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.”

~ Wayne Dyer ~

‘I am the architect of my life; I build its foundation and choose its contents.’