Empower Newsletter – August 2012

Welcome to the August 2012 edition of the Empower Newsletter.  The focus this month is around valuing ourselves and others more.
Do you know?

‘all about the three J’s?’

It was at a workshop called ‘empowering women’ that I first heard about the effect the three J’s (judgement, justification and jealousy) can have on women.  The idea is that they play a major role in hindering women being a great resource for each other.  In actual fact, it was suggested that these three J’s actually turn us against each other.

What do the three J’s give us anyway?  Do we ‘justify’ things to make us feel OK about ourselves?  Do we ‘judge’ others to make us feel better?  Do we act ‘jealous’ because we perceive someone else is better than us?  If so, maybe all it would take to get rid of the three J’s from our behaviour is to simply start valuing ourselves more.

I am a firm believer that women are a great resource for each other, a resource that is way under-utilised.  I believe there is not one thing a group of women could not solve.  Someone would have been through the same thing.  For example, if you were thinking about buying an investment property and were feeling a little apprehensive about it, someone who had been through it would be able to talk about how it felt for them and how it turned out.  This support would not be possible if we thought we were going to be judged as lacking or stupid.

Deleting the three J’s from our behaviour, what a concept!  Imagine the freedom you would have to do and say what you pleased without any concern of what others were saying or thinking.  Imagine how good we could make others feel by paying them a compliment or just accepting them for who they are.  Imagine responding to a compliment with ‘thank you’ instead of worrying about feeling like you were full of yourself.

A Great Read

The Divided Mind by John E. Sarno, M.D.
This book is quite thought provoking.  It states the basis for mindbody disorders are due to the interaction between the conscious and unconscious minds.

This book is not for everyone. Some will find it, almost literally, a lifesaver. Others will regard it as offensive, insulting, and a complete waste of time. My own opinion is that it is a valuable book, especially if you have a holistic approach to health.

Events Schedule

Chicks in the City
Wed 15/08/2012 at 6.30pm

Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of every month from 6.30pm to 8.00pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge area next to the Bristo.

Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect.  Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.

All women are welcome and it’s free.

Something to Ponder

Did you know … that if you act in ways that show you value yourself, others start to behave towards you in similar ways? It’s a paradox; yet, when you show you value yourself, others start to believe that you have value.

And remember: When you believe in yourself, you act with confidence; others begin to believe which leads you to feel more valued.

Quote of the Month

“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.”
Yogi Bhajan

Affirmation Corner

‘I love and accept myself unconditionally.’
and
‘I approve of myself and feel great about myself.’

Di Browne

www.coachtoempower.com.au

Successful people take responsibility

Have you noticed that successful people keep working on what they want until they get it, whilst others make excuses why they didn’t get it?  Successful people don’t give up, or look to blame someone else or the circumstances surrounding the event.

If a situation has not turned out the way they would have liked, they generally look at themselves first.  They ask themselves questions like, ‘who do I need to be and what do I need to do to turn this around’? They realise that no matter how many reasons or justifications they have for an undesirable situation or result, they are only excuses and are not going to give them what they ultimately desire.  They acknowledge that they are responsible for the current outcome and also for creating the desired outcome.

You may ask ‘how am I responsible for being overlooked for the promotion or pay rise’?  Well ask yourself honestly how you generally respond to people, actions and events.  Do you focus on what has happened or in some cases what has not happened to you, and react accordingly; or do you rationally work out what needs to happen or who you need to be to create the outcome you want?

Far too often we react from a place of anger or resentment.  Even if no language is used, it will still come across in your body language.  Denial and failing to take responsibility will only continue to keep us stuck.  Ultimately this is not going to get us what we want. You are responsible for the way you react or don’t react and for the way you approach each and every situation.

By actively taking responsibility for your results and non-results and by being who you need to be, will ultimately give you the results you want. Remember you have a choice, and it is your choice if you take responsibility or not.

Terms used to describe those who have not accepted personal responsibility? martyrs. self-pitying, depressed, losers, quitters, chronically angry, dependent personalities, complainers, addictive personalities, blamers, stubborn, persons in denial, troubled people, stuck, fearful, pessimists, despondent, mentally unstable, obstinate, hostile, aggressive, irresponsible, weak, guilt ridden, resistant to help, passive, irrational, insecure, neurotic, obsessed, lost.

Some tips to start taking responsibility include: – • Accepting responsibility for your responses to the people, actions, and events in your life • Accepting that you are completely responsible for your own choices • Being open to change, new ideas or concepts about life and the way life is • Getting help from others • Letting go of fear and irrational beliefs • Releasing anger, fear, blame, mistrust, and insecurity.

www.coachtoempower.com.au

Di Browne

Phone 0427 026 935

Empower Newsletter – July 2012

Welcome to the July 2012 edition of the Empower Newsletter.  We are half way through the year, and for some, it’s a time of reflection which brings me to the main focus in this edition of ‘continuing to go for want you want until you get it.’

Do you know?

‘you have rules for failure!’

Have you ever been on a diet and given up because you didn’t totally stick to it!  Maybe you had some crisps or a sneaky biscuit or two.  How many times of breaking the diet did it take before you quit after deciding it was a waste of time because you weren’t sticking to it?  What about a prospective new employer or client that did not eventuate!  How many knock backs does it take before you give up?

Did you know that KFC’s Colonel Sanders was rejected 1,009 times over a 2 year period before he received his first ‘yes’ for his chicken recipe?  It sort of makes you feel a bit petty doesn’t it!

We all have certain rules (mostly unconscious) for what has to happen in order for us to know we have failed.  What are your rules for failure?  In other words, what has to happen in order for you to stop going after what you want?  Do you give up when something doesn’t go according to plan?  Do you justify it to yourself by saying you are not good enough, or thinking others are better or smarter than you?

Is so, your definition for failure may not be serving you?

Some of my clients rules for failure were so easy to achieve it’s a wonder they achieved anything at all.  Some rules included them thinking they were wrong merely because someone disagreed with them.  Others believed that they were not smart enough or good looking enough so they either didn’t start or quit.  This meant they gave up a lot!  When the criteria for our rules is met, that is all it takes for us to believe it is true.  So when the rules we have for failure are met, that means we believe we have failed.

This belief was not serving them at all!

The good news is ‘rules can be changed!’  How did you make up your rules for failure anyway?  Did you sit down and decide what rules would serve you in getting what you want?  Probably not!

So why not change your rules for failure (or anything else for that matter) if they are not serving you!  Make them hard to achieve.  My belief around failure is that the only way to truly fail is to give up!  Which means the only way I can fail is to stop going after what I want.  Although I am not sure I would hang in there after being knocked back 1009 times.

The only difference between someone who is successful and someone who is not, are their beliefs.  What does it take for you to stop going after what you want?  What are your rules for failure?

Affirmation Corner

‘I have everything I need to succeed.’

Events Schedule

Chicks in the City Wed 18/07/2012 at 6.30pm

Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of every month from 6.30pm to 8.00pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge area next to the Bristo.

Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect.  Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.

All women are welcome and it’s free.

Something to Ponder

During Colonel Sanders’ period of rejection, not only did many people laugh in his face, he spent two years driving across America in his old, beat-up car, sleeping in the back seat in his rumpled white suit, getting up each day eager to share his idea with someone new. Often, the only food he had was a quick bite of the samples he was preparing for perspective buyers.

Quote of the Month

“I made a resolve then that I was going to amount to something if I could.  And no hours, nor amount of labor, nor amount of money would deter me from giving the best that there was in me.  And I have done that ever since, and I win by it.  I know.” Colonel Sanders

Great Read

All I have been hearing about is the erotic, liberating and deeply moving trilogy everyone is reading called ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ by E.L James.  I usually prefer non-fiction but this book sounds like a lot of fun.  It’s now on my reading list!

Empower Newsletter – June 2012

Welcome to the June 2012 edition of the Empower Newsletter.  The main focus in this edition is about modeling.  Modeling is another tool that will get you what you want.

Do you know?

‘modeling can get you what you want!’

Your probably thinking, yeah right how can modeling get me what I want?  Well I am not talking about modeling as in a cat-walk super model, I am talking about modeling someone else’s behaviours and strategies in life and/or business to get the results they have.  When we model we elicit the strategies, patterns (beliefs and values) and physiology that allow us to produce a certain behaviour.   If someone already has the amount of success at something you want, instead of stumbling through and no doubt making mistakes as you go, doesn’t it make sense to model what they are doing.  By modeling, you have a short cut to getting what you want.  They have already made all the mistakes for you along the way and they know exactly what works and what doesn’t work.  This dramatically shortens the amount of time and heartache it would have taken you to get there.  Imagine if you model a behaviour that has already been proven to work, how much of a short cut it would be!

For example if you are struggling with something and want to become better at it, find someone who does it the way you would like to do it and model how they act, what they do, think and say to themselves.  This will replicate the results they are getting.  Once you get the results you can start tweaking it to suit your style.

There is no need for the person you will model to have every area of their life the way you want yours to be, only the area you want the same success.  For example, if you would like to have more work/life balance, find someone who already has success in this area without looking at any other area of their life.  You certainly wouldn’t want to model their diet if they weren’t experiencing the success you wanted.

Before you look for a model, it is important to be clear on the qualities and results you want.  For example, it is no use finding a model that has a different idea of integrity than you.  Look for a model that not only has the results you want, but also has similar values you will feel happy to model.

Here’s to getting what you want!  I would love to hear about how modeling has helped you get what you want.

Something to Ponder

‘Imitate confidence so that as the confidence produces success, it will generate real confidence.’ NLP

Affirmation Corner

Modeling Affirmation  ‘I learn from every situation I encounter.’

Events Schedule

Chicks in the City Wed 20/06/2012 at 6.30pm

Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of every month from 6.30pm to 8.00pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge area next to the Bristo.

Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect.  Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.

All women are welcome and it’s free.

Modeling Tip

‘Fake it till you make it’ The ‘fake it till you make it’ principle is the idea that you can always act the part, whatever it is that may be required, and that, if you do this well enough, the act can appear to be indistinguishable from the genuine article. It involves the ‘being part’ and it is the essence of modeling. The great thing about modeling is that you really don’t have to understand how or why the tactics of your model work. You simply need to choose your model, analyse its characteristics and then work on acquiring them and, by the law of cause and effect, which states that like causes always produce like effects, you can then enjoy the same levels of success.

Quote of the Month

“Learning would be exceedingly laborious, not to mention hazardous, if people had to rely solely on the effects of their own actions to inform them what to do. Fortunately most human behaviour is learned observationally through modeling.” Albert Bandura

Empower Newsletter – May 2012

Welcome to the May 2012 edition of the Empower Newsletter.  The main focus in this edition is about having more confidence in your life and at work simply by choosing it.  Enjoy!

Do you know?

‘confidence comes from within’

Confidence is within each and every one of us.  Although in some of us it is just allowed to lay dormant.

When our confidence lays dormant it can stop us from going after and getting what we want in life and business.  It allows self-doubt to creep in which then allows fear to rule our desires and decisions.

Low confidence can often manifest itself as negativity – seeing the glass as half empty, doubting ourselves and often making excuses.  Whereas confident people are usually positive – they believe in themselves and their abilities, and they believe in living life to the full.

We all started out with confidence, it is inside every human being.   For example when babies attempt to walk for the first time, there is no hesitation about what they want to do.  There is no worry about falling because they know exactly what to do when it happens.  Stand up and do it again.  We were all babies once with the confidence to learn to walk and go for what we wanted.

Is your confidence awake and thriving or asleep and inactive?  If you don’t feel very confident, it’s time to wake up what is rightfully yours and choose to use it.

One way to awaken your confidence is by ‘acting as if’ you are already confident.  It may feel a little strange at first but with time it will come naturally.  Your level of confidence can show in many ways:  your behaviour, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on.

Something to Ponder

“With confidence you can reach truly amazing heights: without confidence, even the simplest accomplishments are beyond your grasp.” Jim Loehr

Quote of the month

“Confidence is the feeling you have before you understand the situation.” Source unknown

Events Schedule

Chicks in the City Wed 16/05/2012 at 6.30pm

Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of every month from 6.30pm to 8.00pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge area next to the Bristo.

Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect.  Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.

All women are welcome and it’s free.

A Great Read

“Feel the fear and do it anyway” by Susan Jeffers

Although I have mentioned this book in the November 2010 edition of the Empower Newsletter, I feel it is so relevant to the confidence theme that I wanted to write about it again.

One of the biggest lessons Susan describes in her book is that you are never going to get rid of fear.  Even the most successful and confident people feel fear.  The only difference is that they ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’.  Eventually through repetition and experience it does gets easier.

Affirmation Corner

Confidence Affirmations  ‘I am confident’ and/or ‘I can do it’

Empower Newsletter – April 2012

Welcome to the April 2012 edition of the Empower Newsletter.  The main focus in this edition is about creating transformation in your life simply by taking more responsibility.  Enjoy!

Do you know?

‘how can you take more responsibility?’

What is taking responsibility all about anyway?  You may answer that it is about making sure the family is looked after, there is enough income, there is a roof over your head, you have clean clothes, you eat sensibly, being a law abiding citizen, etc.  Well you are right, although it’s much more than these things.  It is also about taking responsibility for how you feel or don’t feel, how you are treated or not treated, and what you achieve or don’t achieve.

Do you often have a reason or excuse to justify how you feel or why something is happening to you?  If this is the case, it may make you feel better at the time but it will only end up helping you to stay stuck.  By acknowledging responsibility for the situation, it not only allows you to learn and grow, it may be the turning point you are looking for to create the life you have always dreamed of.

For example, by blaming circumstances or another person for a negative emotion or a non-desirable result, is only allowing us to justify to ourselves that it is not our fault.  And if it is not our fault we don’t have to do anything to establish how we can change the outcome/feeling or future outcomes/feelings.

By acknowledging that we alone are responsible for how we feel and our results, it allows us to look at how we can get a different/better result.  This can be done by choosing different actions, ways to respond to people, behaviours and/or perceptions.  This will then create a different outcome.  As Einstein says ‘the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.’

Are you responding the same way or doing the same things over and over again expecting a different result?

Check out the article for some extra tips on how you can take more responsibility and how successful people take responsibility.

Something to Ponder

“To decide to be at the level of choice, is to take responsibility for your life and to be in control of your life.” Arbie M. Dale

“Responsibility is the price of greatness.” Winston Churchill

Quote of the month

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” Jim Rohn

Events Schedule

Chicks in the City Wed 18/04/2012 at 6.30pm

Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of every month from 6.30pm to 8.00pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge area next to the Bristo.

Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect.  Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.

All women are welcome and it’s free.

Affirmation Corner

Responsibility Affirmation

‘I am 100% responsible for my life’

A Great Read

“The Brain That Changes Itself” by Norman Doidge, M.D.

This book claims how the power of positive thinking has finally gained scientific credibility.

One part I found extremely interesting was all about Alzheimer’s disease and how the principal of ‘if you don’t use it, you lose it’ comes into play.

If you think about it, it’s quite logical. For example, when older people retire, they stop using certain skills or performing tasks.  They are no using parts of the brain that they were previously using.  As described in the book one of the best ways to keep Alzheimer’s at bay is to learn a different language as this ensures ‘you don’t lose it’.

Empower Newsletter – March 2012

Welcome to the March 2012 edition of the Empower Newsletter.  In this edition the focus is on personal growth and how changing your thinking and approach can get you what you want.  Enjoy!

Question and Answer

‘how do you know what you don’t know?’

What’s so important about knowing what you don’t already know?  Surely if you don’t know it, you mustn’t need to know it.  You have got this far without knowing, what possible reason could there be to find out some of the things you don’t know.  Well the number one reason is to improve the quality of our lives.

It is so important because all of our decisions, interactions and behaviours are governed by our beliefs.  The problem with this is that we don’t consciously think about what our beliefs are.  A lot of them are unconscious and although some beliefs serve us, others are less empowering.

The thing with beliefs is if you believe something is true or you believe it’s not, you are right.  Beliefs can either open up possibilities or shut you down.

To work out what you don’t know, focus on an area in your life that is not the way you want it to be.  There will be an underlying belief that is not serving you.  For example, do you believe that people are honest or dishonest, people take advantage or they are givers?  Do those beliefs make a difference to how you treat them or how they treat you because of how you perceive them?  Our beliefs determine what we think and what we think determines how we act.

An example of this is if you believe people are generally dishonest, after being at a conference all day when you realise you don’t have your purse/wallet with you, do you wonder who stole it or do you wonder where you left it?  The answer impacts not only on your mood but also your thoughts and behaviour.

The good thing about beliefs is that they can be changed.  What beliefs are going to serve you in creating a life you want?

For more information on beliefs and how you can discover and then change a limiting belief refer to the ‘Changing a limiting belief’ article found at www.coachtoempower.com.au.

Quote of the month

“You can never solve a problem with the same kind of thinking that created the problem in the first place” Albert Einstein

Something to Ponder

“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right” Henry Ford

Affirmation Corner

Personal Growth Affirmation

‘New opportunities to advance are coming to me every day’

Events Schedule

Chicks in the City Wed 21/03/2012 at 6.30pm

Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of every month from 6.30pm to 8.00pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge area next to the Bristo.

Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect.  Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.

All women are welcome and it’s free.

A Great Read

“Give Asthma the Big A” by Marian Shepherd Slee

This Brisbane woman tells of her battle with asthma and how she overcame it. Marian claims that Vitamin A (with a little help from Vitamin E & C at times) was not only her saviour, but tells of others having the same success.  However as Marian explains in the book Vitamin A is not recommended by the medical institution as apparently it can be harmful.   Personally I have suffered from mild asthma since the age of 2 and decided that I would experiment with Vitamin A to see if it made a difference to my asthma.  Although it has only been 3 weeks of taking one Vitamin A and E per week, I have not had to use my ventolin at all (even before running).  I can now feel my breath pass through my sinuses and my airway feels somehow wider.  I can’t help but wonder if this is how it feels to breathe properly.

I decided last year that I would work on getting rid of my asthma and wouldn’t you know it, I saw this book.  Would I have bought it is it wasn’t part of my focus/goals?

Empower Newsletter – February 2012

Hello again and welcome to the February 2012 edition of the Empower Newsletter.  I have just returned from a wonderful week in Kiama.  What a beautiful part of the world it is.  The energy is so vibrant.  Although it is a common tourist spot, it has somehow managed to keep its country town like charm, with no high rises and traffic lights to speak of.  An amazing feat in the world we live in today.

Have you Noticed?

‘what happens when you focus on something else other than yourself?’

When destructive self-talk and thoughts are a constant problem in your life, change your focus to something or someone else and you will be amazed at the difference it makes to your life.

Constant critical banter in our heads has a negative effect on us and how we feel about ourselves.  The constant repetition is heard over and over again by your unconscious mind and because our unconscious mind is like a little child, it believes everything we tell it.  Would you tolerate someone else being as critical to you?  Surely not, so why do we allow ourselves to get away with it!   There are many ways to change this behaviour.  One of the best ways is to move the focus from yourself onto someone or something else.  An example of how this works in a group setting may go something like this.  Say you had to give a talk in front of a group.  You may have been OK about doing it until you started the negative self-talk such as ‘I hope I don’t stuff up or what if someone asks a question I don’t know the answer to?’  In this situation if you change your focus onto your audience instead of yourself, it will change the outcome.  Imagine how fantastic it would make you feel if you focused on all the great information you were about to give them and how it could enhance their lives.

If your critical self-talk is often about the way you look or the way you wished you looked, try focusing on the solution to the problem.  If you want to lose some weight, instead of the constant repetition of telling yourself the way you don’t like it (which no doubt makes you feel worse, which then usually leads to more eating to feel better, which ends up making you feel even worse about yourself), focus on what you need to do to look the way you would like to be.  This might be in the form of finding a personal trainer, planning your meals or establishing an exercise program for yourself.

By taking the focus off ourselves and placing in on what we need to do, this releases us from the sometimes debilitating negative self-talk that only ends up keeping us stuck and often struggling with our self-worth.  So by choosing to focus on the desired outcome we not only start working towards it, we also gain more confidence and self-worth in the process.

Affirmation Corner

Self-Worth Affirmation

‘Today I choose to see all difficulties as opportunities to make me stronger’

Events Schedule

Chicks in the City Wed 15/02/2012 at 6.30pm

Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of every month for a meal from 6.30pm to 8.00pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge area next to the Bristo.

Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect.  Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.

All women are welcome and it’s free.

Quotes of the month

“Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment, you recognized yourself as a friend” Elizabeth Gilbert

“Sometimes the hardest part of the journey is believing you’re worthy of the trip” Glenn Beck

A Great Read

My Dirty Shiny Life by Lily Bragge

The memoir of this Melbourne-born arts writer has it all. Colourful characters, a colourful career and certainly colourful language.  This book is both harrowing and hilarious.  Lily Bragge knows what it is to be a user and a taker, a liar, cheat and thief.  It wasn’t until she had lost everything – custody of her son, her friends, her career, her possessions and, almost her sanity – that she was able to gain some kind of understanding of herself and rebuild her life from a blank, empty slate.   Extremely inspirational.

Empower Newsletter – January 2012

Welcome to the New Year!  I wonder what wonderful things lay ahead of us all.  How exciting!  What are your hopes and dreams for 2012?  How do you want things to be in your life and how are you going to make them happen?

There is no time like the present to start the ball rolling.  The trick to achieving anything is to start.  One thing at a time (start the ball rolling) and then do another (keep pushing it along) and then do another (keep pushing, puff puff) until one day you suddenly realise you have want you want.  Woo hoo!!!!  If one thing doesn’t work, don’t’ give up, try another!

Did you know?

‘the only way you can fail is to totally give up’

There is no failure, only feedback!  What a great way to look at it.  Feedback is just finding another way that doesn’t work.  Listen, ask questions, research and then implement changes to try something different.  It will ultimately get you closer to what you want because you now know one more way not to do it.  Did you know successful people have had to find more ways of doing something, or failed more times than anybody else, to get where they are.  They are not afraid of failure.  They don’t see it as a bad thing.  In fact they see it as getting closer to where they want to be.   What are your rules for failure?  Does it take one or several times of trying before you give up?  For some people giving up can be as simple as someone else not agreeing with them.  If what you are doing does not work, do you try something different or do you instantly believe you have tried and failed?  If it is the latter, is this belief serving you?  Did you achieve your 2011 goals or did you conveniently admit failure due to maybe one or even two half-hearted attempts?  Or even worse, did you not start them at all.  This rule for failure would make it hard for anyone to succeed.  If you did achieve one or all of your 2011 goals, congratulations!

What would happen if you started a new strategy or behaviour to achieve what you want? To not only try something different when something wasn’t working, but also to have a rule for failure that serve’s you.  My rule for failure is to stop trying.  This means I can only fail if I stop going after what I want.  I find this makes it very hard to fail.  It’s a rule that serves me.

What are your rules for failure?  What has to happen for you to stop going after want you want?

Quote of the month

‘Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out’

Robert Collier

Affirmation Corner

Success Affirmation Each moment is filled with possibilities

Events Schedule

Xmas Chicks in the City Wed 15/02/2012 at 6.30pm

Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of every month (excluding Jan 12) from 6.30pm to 7.30pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the lounge next to the Bristo.

Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect.  Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.

All women are welcome and it’s free.

Resources

Free 6 Human Needs CD For those of you who asked for a copy of the 6 Core Human Needs CD, Congratulations!  Just another tool to add to your toolkit for ensuring a more fulfilled and happy life.

A Great Read

Spirituality in the Workplace by Various Authors

I believe this is a topic that naturally, although slowly, is encompassing the workplace as it is society as a whole.  How can we be different people at work than we are away from work?

Each author has a different version what spiritually is in the workplace.  I really related to a few of them who specifically related to spiritually as being at peace and having a deep connection with ourselves.  This means taking responsibility for our advancements and our own development.  Basically to have a deepened self-awareness as part of our work performance.

Empower Newsletter – December 2011

Welcome to the December 2011 edition of the Empower Newsletter.  Have you finished your Christmas Shopping already or do you leave it to the last minute?  I personally do a bit of both.

If you are one of those people that dread this time of year, I recommend trying the art of giving.  Remember real joy is in the giving!  So I can experience this joy I would love to give you a free copy of my 6 Human Needs CD.  Let me know by return email if you would like to receive it.

Did you know?

‘faith doesn’t have to be about God’

For a long time when the word ‘faith’ was mentioned, I assumed that it was only something religious people had and felt.  I would automatically dismiss it as something that only some people needed to have in their lives.

It was during a coaching session that I realised that I have bucket loads of belief, which is faith, and that it is not exclusive to religious people.

I could ask 50 different people what faith means to them and get 50 different answers.  For me, faith is ‘an inner knowing’.  An inner belief that everything will be fine.  No matter what happens in my life, I know I will be OK.

What does faith mean to you?

A Great Read

Extraordinary You

This is a brand new book containing eleven personal stories to unlocking an exceptional life.  I have had the privilege of reading the Chapter written by Ghania Dib.  Ghania describes her amazing life journey to get to the extraordinary place she is now.  Her story, which is brutally honest at times, is truly inspirational and captures the true essence of the sometimes painful journey a lot of people go through in their lives.  As I was reading it, I felt the anticipation in her words shine through in the hope her story will help others to break through whatever barriers they perceive and start living an extraordinary life of their own.

Ghania believes that both internal (self) and external (other) relationships are at the heart of an extraordinary life.  I believe she is truly extraordinary!

The book is due to be launched in Sydney on Monday 12/12/11 at 6pm.  For further information on the launch or to order a copy of the book, visit her website.  If you fill in the opt in form on her home page, you will receive a free 7 part video series titled “7 Secrets to Creating Extraordinary Relationships”.  Her website is www.livelovethrive.com.au.

Affirmation

Belief Affirmation

I accept that who I am is a reflection of what I believe.

Events Schedule

Xmas Chicks in the City Wed 21/12/2011 at 6.30pm

Chicks in the City meet the third Wednesday of every month from 6.30pm to 7.30pm at Ryde Eastwood Leagues Club, 117 Ryedale Road, West Ryde in the Hawks Lounge (lower ground lounge area).

Chicks in the City is a group for women to connect.  Basically it’s all about hanging out with women, meeting new friends, socialising, finding like-minded women to chat to or even making long lasting friendships.

All women are welcome and it’s free.

Quote of the month

‘Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail’ Charles F. Kettering

Resources

Free 6 Human Needs CD

The February 2011 edition of the Empower Newsletter contained an article about the 6 Core Human Needs which explained how we need these needs in our life to enable us to live a more fulfilled and happy life.

Because this created a lot of curiosity, I have created a CD elaborating on these needs which will not only help you clarify why you feel the way you do at certain times in your life, it will give you examples and ideas to enable you to implement a resourceful balance to meet your individual needs.

If you would like a free copy of this CD let me know via email.